One of the important lessons that I’ve been learning this month is the impact of the way we speak to and about ourselves.
Do you talk to yourself like a best friend or an arch nemesis?
Most of us realize that we are our own worst critic, however it is rare that we actually take time to think through the consequences that our harshness can have on both our minds and bodies.
I’ve been trying to keep track of the things that I think about myself and I have started to wonder…how would I feel if someone was saying those same things about a close friend…a family member….or my fiancee?
Most of us would never speak to the people we love in the same manner that we speak to ourselves. In fact, if we’re really honest…if a colleague came up to you and said the things that you think about yourself we would probably think that they are the worst human being on the planet…or they need serious help.
Can You Relate?
I challenge you to think through the past day or past week. What words do you use to speak to yourself? What is your tone? If you’re like me and it’s anything less than loving and forgiving…make yourself a promise to become more loving this week.
I’ve heard people talk about speaking to themselves as though they are talking to a elementary age version of themselves. I decided to try this and I was surprised by how helpful it was. When I speak to the 5 year old version of myself I have sooo much more empathy and compassion. Try it out and see if it works for you too.
What Next, How to Deal with Negative Self-Talk?
Take 5 minutes before you go to bed each day this week and speak loving and kind words over yourself…and if that’s not your thing…write them down in a notebook or journal.
Maybe it’s just an inspiring quote that you found on Pinterest or a a favorite Bible verse.
If nothing else, you will go to sleep with a much more settled and peace filled mind.
Hope you have a beautiful Monday!
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